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I've never actually played Among Us, but from what I've seen of it played, a proximity voice chat mod really improves things.

On the topic of self identity:

When I was a kid, I didn't really have any friends, and I though this was because nobody liked me. (Turns out people did like me and the real problem was a mountain of social anxiety, but getting over that is a different, though perhaps still relevant, story.) I decided I didn't care what they thought, I would be who I wanted to be anyway. I figured out who I was, who I wanted to be, and the path I would take, and built myself an Identity out of concrete and rebar, impregnable and immutable. I was immune to teasing and bullying, but also incapable of accepting input and feedback and was stubborn as hell, master of my own destiny. And then I went to university.

I began my studies into the career I had carefully selected and carved into the stone of my soul, and very quickly realized I absolutely detested it. But this was who I was, and the only option was to press forward. And thus began the two most miserable years of my life. In the end I broke, I couldn't do it, and in that moment it all came crumbling down. For a while I stopped being a person and fell into a hole I nearly didn't climb back out of. I wasn't merely a failure, I was a Nothing, and I felt I might as well get it all over with. Thankfully my family and friends (I did eventually make some friends) staged an intervention and got me back on my feet.

I no longer knew who I was, but all these people around me seemed have all these ideas to that regard, and it became easy to just let them project that onto my now blank canvas. My self went from almost completely internalized to almost completely externalized. It was so easy, just going with the flow, purely reactive to what those around me expected. But I eventually realized it wasn't satisfying, none of my goals and asperations were actually mine, none of my achievements felt like they were my achievements, I was just doing as expected and getting empty feeling good boy pats. I was just a strange mirror fake, or a marionette dancing on strings. The real me was still somewhere down in that hole, and if I was going to get them out I was going to have to build something structural.

But this time I was building a framework, not a fortress. I need solid foundations, but not everything needs to be sacrosanct. For example, I suspect I'm non-binary, but more accurately I just don't really care, so hanging a big sheet for society to project a gender onto works well enough for me. Maybe I'll build something in that space later, but it's not a priority. But on the other hand I'm not going to let some corporate media empire convince me that letting lots of people die is ok as long as we're making enough money. It's like a pillar or something. This framework metaphor kinda breaks down the more I think about it, analyzing is a lot harder without the power of hindsight. Maybe it's more like a house with furniture I can move around and the walls take a more serious remodeling project? I'm still working on it (both the metaphor and the Identity.) Regardless, despite a GLOBAL PANDEMIC happening, this version of me is by far the overall happiest version yet, though the pandemic did really put all that work I did to the test. I guess third time's the charm, eh?

Also I vote Comedy Smallmoose as new forum mascot.

Darn time zones, spreading time across so many zones! *Shakes fist*

Boter's proposal works for me, consider me signed up.

It's shedding

I PMed you my email, command me captain

I recall thinking the movie was kinda blue, but I didn't realize just how bad it was. Holy shit.

If Regan can't do it, I'd be happy to step in. I also still want to face off against Teague eventually too.

I'm super down for some kind of round robin, if Owen wants to put in that kind of work. I'll also throw my hat into the ring for Star Wars Legacy EU. Most of the time I got odd looks when I ramble at length about Clat the Shamer, but perhaps I can use this knowledge to win something this time.

I'm also down for video game trivia, LotR trivia, Magic the Gathering trivia, and probably many other things I haven't thought of.

And we love you all the same

Discord is great, and has become one of my primary ways of keeping in contact with people. It has basically everything I want out of social media without intruding with lots of stuff I don't. It's also probably the best way to get ahold of me without literally having my phone number. So, if y'all want to hang out on Discord, I'm already there.

Someone being turned back to the Light side by the power of love is such a Star Wars trope that Kylo's redemption didn't bother me, but some of my friends did question it. I feel like if we're going to say he didn't earn it, then we have to be honest with ourselves and go back and admit that Vader didn't really earn his redemption either. I'm with you on the kiss though.